On my way to Work one morning, listening to an audio book, a statement pops at me “Success is achieving Set goals” Pondering on this, I realise teams are destroyed because we do not know how to manage success of teams when we achieve set goals. A team is considered successful when set targets […]
A while back, I woke up to a group conversation about one of our friends constantly complaining about being single. A lot of people I know are moving in with their partners, getting engaged and have started having kids and some of my single female friends are freaking out!
( The guys are cool, I’m positive men appreciate being single more than women)
I constantly have to remind my girls to calm down, but quite a few are turning 25/26 so the pressure is on a little. What they don’t seem to realise is that, they do not NEED to be in relationships, they just WANT to be in them. However, they can’t tell the difference they are scared and want to meet the right guy so they can settle down before 30.
I thought we were now living in a society where people were comfortable with being older mothers…
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On my way to work this morning, 2face’s songs played on my car CD, “what a guy !” are the thoughts that readily comes to mind.
I love the track with 9ice (Street Credibility) and really love a recent one called ” Dance in the Rain” .
In recent times Tuface had evolved into a lot of lyrics around positive vibrations, i just thought that 2Baba was high on “igbo” but listening to Dance in the rain again I realised he was preaching a sermon.
He had finally got the secret formula , he needed to relax and enjoy the air. Live life and appreciate it, bask in the sunlight, enjoy the ride, take some time to smell the flowers, it is your life so live it.
I sincerely believe that as average Nigerians we are too hard on ourselves, 2face had fallen a number of times, lots of scandals, numerous kids from different women, but he pressed pause, rewind , then play. I appreciate how he was strong enough to make decisions that was required at the time. We all know about 2face because he is famous, we all have situations we need to review, the indicators might be blinking red, do not be too frightened to rewind .
I was in a meeting today, and while daydreaming, I remember a quote ” people see you as you see yourself” we need to learn to forgive ourselves, and live our own life.
Tuface has won so many awards, I have lost count, this inspires me that creativity gets it rewards no matter how many times you fall down.
Thank you 2Baba for loving yourself to take care of yourself.
Life is worth living happily.
As higher learning beings, comfort is an instinct that is so strong that we would do anything to keep our patch.
Most of us allow our job roles to define whom we stand to be, we put our jobs which gives us a sense of security and self worth and standing in society. I agree that success is day to measure on the job, but true success is you achieving your set goals.
I understand that at this point in time you feel disappointed, betrayed, a strong dislike for your colleagues left in the system, especially when you feel you have given your all on the course of duty, you can not stand the look of the Company logo, i truly understand, you might not have a plan B in income, bills will surely slap you in the face, very few people call you, even the kids’ school are breathing down your neck, I understand.
1. Never Panic! : Things will fall into place, I do not know how, but be calm.
2. Never ask for help in desperation: makes matters worse.
Cool calm and collected.
3. Play around on Social media , be a kid again, you will stumble on articles to make you feel better and see a different perspective.
Begin a hobby, and do menial jobs, a business could begin.
The truth is you require a nudge to leave your comfort zone, start that dream business now, start hawking your groundnuts, anything you cannot afford shows you were not meant to have in the first instance. Close your ears and eyes to what people are saying, who really cares, begin to live your dream today.
I hope this helps.
Life is worth living happily
Listen to Setting goals. by Oyindamola Grace Aikoye #np on #SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/oyindamola-grace-aikoye/setting-goals
Yesterday, I was talking to Ali (my husband) and I mentioned that if he were in the North during the last General Elections ( Ali grew up in Kaduna, and does have close relations with the ruling party) we would have gotten a few million dollars from the #Dasukigate. He looked up and smiled, “you are so right!” We would have collected money that we would be so distressed about, but could anyone have turned down money from the Presidency? (All na questions?)
Jim Rohm stated that we all need to have principled principles, We grew up in a Country that we perceive that only influence from “Oga at the top” can open doors. Government jobs are only given to the children of Civil servants (inheritance), contracts are given to Oga himself, sharp deals are seen as smart, but thank heavens, though things are changing, our moral compass was need to be overhauled.
I once read,and applied a technique from Wattle D Wallace, which says that ” Do not drive a sharp bargain, but ensure you give the person you are serving ( either your own business or at work) the best you can be, by evolution you grow beyond your present responsibility to a higher level.
A favorite quote of mine is Romans 12: 2
“Do not be confirmed to this World, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind”
A country filled with so much corruption, I grew up surrounded with corruption, and everyone got away with it, the culprits were celebrated, however this does not make it right for me to join in.
Check out these search results: https://twitter.com/hashtag/DasukiGate?s=09
Life is worth living happily.
Great Ideas always look stupid to everyone else.
It takes a strong heart to do what you want to do. Everyone has a reason they feel you can not achieve this goal, unfortunately we always listen to these people, and add this to the long list which we have already created for ourselves about reasons we can not achieve our set goals.
The Human mind as powerful it is, adapts to the environment it finds itself in, just like the most sophisticated gadget, or an Apple phone, and the only thing the owner uses it for is Voice calls, WhatsApp, and Facebook.
I live at Ibadan, a semi urban city, but grew up in Lagos, and with great amusement, I observe my surrounding, 90% of the populace have the same target and goals, have the same kind of businesses, even to the women hairstyles,buy the same kind of cars. It baffles me.
My observations are that we are scared to do something unique, the more we put our Minds to work, the more successful we become.
We were all created differently, but in the same image, we are no mistake, we are made to be Gods, we have the ability to rule our own Kingdoms and Cultures.
We can forge alliances but in a winning manner.
Please do not just use your phone for WhatsApp.
If you fear failure, you will hate yourself in awhile for being afraid.
Life is worth Living happily.
This principle fascinates me, because logically it seems far fetched but however it works and proves to me that i worry too much.
,I was in a study class for PMP certification and Mrs Otuchere mentions ” solve 20% of the problem and the 80% fizzles away” gbam! Huge paradigm shift! Then why have I been working so hard to make sure it is 100% perfect, why does the FG of Nigeria not just focus on 20% of our issues, why do I not focus on 20% of my Sales team, and stop trying to make up super strong army, why have I not focused on just 20% of my forever long list of wants, lots of why’s.
I tried it!
I chose the 20% accounts I decided to give Key Account Management, I selected 20% human resource , ensured I just had 2 personal focus points at any point in time.
- Improved relationship with half of the 20%
- Increased efficiency from the team,( though at times I feel I have not nurtured the rest enough)
- Results were visible to me.
- I was not burnt out.
1. Ask yourself “what do I really want?”
2 Do it consistently.
3. Focusing on 20%.
Stop being hard on yourself and focus on 20%.
The Wikipedia link will give yo more insight on the Pareto Principle.
I just read here that the principle actually came from a gardener who noticed that 80% of his peas came from 20% of the pods, in Nigerian terms this means that 80% of the beans came from 20% of the farm.
So so true!
Knowledge is useless if not applied.
Give it a try please.
Life is worth living happily.